Love Bombing: When Love Arrives Like an Avalanche (But Doesn’t Stay)

By Janaína Arruda – Janaland

It was too much love in too little time.

Eyes that felt eternal through a screen, sweet words spoken with a foreign accent, promises of a future where only the two of us existed.

Me, as intense as I am, melted — and he knew it.

That’s when I learned: there’s a big difference between intense love and real love.

What I lived with Paul — and only now can I name it — has a name: love bombing.

And no, it’s not love.

It’s manipulation wrapped in romance.

What is love bombing?

Love bombing is an emotional tactic where someone overwhelms you with intense displays of affection, over-the-top compliments, big promises and declarations of eternal love — all in a very short time.

It feels like a fairy tale, but it’s a trap.

The goal isn’t love. It’s control. Dependency.

To make you believe you’ve found “the one” — and just when you surrender, they begin to pull away, disappear, grow distant.

And there you are, stuck between what was promised and the silence that followed.

How to recognize it?

• Everything is too much, too fast

• He calls you “the love of his life” before he even knows your favorite meal

• There are lots of promises, but very little consistency

• Slowly, communication changes: you start feeling ignored, anxious, insecure

• You begin to blame yourself for feeling too much

• He says “you’re too intense” — but isn’t there when you need him

What can you do?

• Trust the signs: absence says more than a thousand words

• Come back to yourself: someone who truly loves you won’t just disappear

• Don’t blame yourself for believing: the problem was never loving too much — it was him not loving enough

• Don’t accept less than what you offer.
  You weren’t born to be anyone’s half.
  You weren’t meant to beg for crumbs from someone who swore they’d love you.

Today, I look at all of this with more love for myself.

And if you’ve ever been through something like this — or are going through it right now — know this:

You deserve a love that stays.

That doesn’t fade into silence.

That fights to stay.

And until that love comes, may your own love for yourself be the most beautiful one of all.